This is something I heard on the radio, in my car, on the way to Shah Alam for the Royals debate. Azwan was driving and I was busy trying to keep him awake. Needless to say, Raja has deserted both of us. Anyway, it was in Hot FM where this woman was telling the listeners how her husband left her for his best friend. Left her with I can't remember how many children, one of them is handicapped. The Deejay, of course, gave the standard respond of 'pasti ada hikmah disebalik apa yang berlaku' or something of that nature. I could have said that...without even meaning it.
I commented on that. I said that would be last thing I would want to hear if I was in that position.I can't remember whether Azwan agreed with me on that. I think he did, probably because he didn't want to be kicked out onto the highway in the middle of the night. Never mind about that.
Back to the standard respond...its not that I don't believe it, of course I do, its a universal truth.
But, I still remember back in 1995, when my husband passed away, I didn't want any sympathy, I didn't want any words of comfort, I would rather they just sit beside me and not say a word, and I certainly didn't want any universal truth crammed down my throat, not when I was angry with life for being such a bitch...actually I didn't know what I wanted at that time, until somebody said something that made me think. He said...there are reasons why we don't know our future, and this is one of them. If you had known that this is how your life would be, would you have acepted it?
I could not remember exactly what I said to him. I think I mumbled some incomprehesible phrases which probably meant 'no'.
But I realized then, that's exactly what I needed to hear. The kind of no nonsense, deal with it attitude, the kind that says...this is your life, so deal with it! and I did. I dealt with it the only way I know how to...by putting on my sixty-four million dollar smile and getting on with my life. Well, it works...most of the time. The world is a stage...
So...if I see you crying and fail to say anything, don't be offended. It does not mean that I don't care...It simply means that I can't think of anything constructive to say so I choose not to say anything at all...can you deal with that?
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4 comments:
i agree with you.
to say "everything has its hidden meaning" is a lot easier than to feel it. when someone need you to listen to him, just listen without giving your opinion especially when it's not needed. because sometimes, we pretend as if we can take control everything but in the end, we can't.
the world is a stage and we are the actors....
sometimes, some people need those words, so that they know people cared about them,
but, in life, you have to learn to except things,
life is like a box of chocolate.
Mdm...I'm totally agreed for what you have said in your entry...
Yeahhh..you're right!!!, this is my mdm normala, my fellow Scorpio who preferred to be so so so SILENT rather than say anything even to the tremendous thing is happening in front of her eyes...but, scorpio knows scorpio!!!
Is that true mdm????
Remember that nite...the JGN PISAHKAN KITA...lalalalala, what the lovely song!!!
Yess..Madam..I agreed. Sometimes we need to be a good listener. But, sometimes we need an opinion.
I respect you as single mother! I know how far you filling because my mother is same like you.
Ok..Hope to see you one day!!
Have a nice day.
don forget my blog.
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